During the whole process of getting married (lets not kid its a marathon not a day)... sometimes its easy to loose sight of why you are getting married amongst the craziness of everything that has to be done on top of everyday life. My reason- I want to spend the rest of my life with my best friend.
What is a friend though? Well its someone we share some things in common with- for us its food, untasteful jokes, movies, Boston Legal, BBQ, beer, science and most importantly dinosaurs. However in times of stress I don't feel I have the time for "pleasure" or we just become too tired that functioning and planning something drops on our priority list.
Lately Mr. FMB and I have been in a rut and its not just the two weddings we are planning. We are currently in a temporary house with 3 other boys all of which have girlfriends and our dog. I work from home and my only real reasons to leave the house are to get more soda at the co-op, walk the dog or go to rugby. Its easy to get into a pattern of just coming home and crashing and constantly being around the others we were not getting much time to ourselves.
In the three years we have dated we have only lived in the same location for 6 months. When apart the distance was the Atlantic Ocean and at least $700 for a ticket. The last month has been the first time since our engagement we have actually settled in and spent time together, or not so much. So we consciously tried to change that....
First idea- date night (this was 2+ weeks ago)- has been yet to happen. First I got sick, then we were going away... maybe we will shoot for it again this week. We did at least decide on Wednesdays being a good day for it. Now only if we can make it out. Has anyone out there figured out how to make this work?
Second idea- taking a long walk out to the park together with the doggy. This measure has proven to be very successful. Armed with wellies and two tennis balls a 40 minute walk around the local fields after work gives us time to talk about our day away from everyone else. Also when we return the doggy is too tired to cause any trouble the rest of the night- double win.
Third idea- we have planned a few mini trips away with just the two of us for the weekend. This plan was a huge success on its first launch this weekend- Dublin. We watched 6 nations, drank a lot of Irish beverages (Guinness for him, Bulmers for me), ate amazing food, saw really cool sites (like the old prison and the Guinness factory). Not the most cost effective solution but we did fly RyanAir and hotel was free on my work points. Next up- Frankfurt in two weeks.
Mr. FMB posing in his "happy place"
Do you find yourselves loosing yourself as a couple amongst all the hustle and bustle? What do you do to give yourselves those little moments?
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